Counselling & Psychotherapy for Trauma, Grief, Relationships & Mental Health Concerns
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Trauma Counselling & EMDR Therapy
Sometimes an experience is already over, but emotionally it does not feel over.
You may find yourself reacting strongly to situations that remind you of something from the past. You may feel constantly on guard, experience intrusive memories, avoid certain situations or conversations, struggle to trust others, or notice that past experiences continue to affect your relationships and how you see yourself.
Sometimes you may even understand logically that you are safe now, yet your emotional or physical reactions seem to tell you otherwise.
Trauma does not always come from one dramatic event. It can also develop through repeated experiences of emotional hurt, rejection, betrayal, loss, unsafe relationships, childhood experiences or situations in which you felt powerless or unable to protect yourself.
I provide trauma-informed counselling and psychotherapy for trauma-related difficulties, including symptoms associated with post-traumatic stress, and may integrate Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) where appropriate.
EMDR is a structured psychotherapy approach commonly used in trauma treatment. Rather than requiring you to repeatedly describe every detail of a distressing experience, EMDR works with how difficult memories and experiences continue to be held and activated in the present.
However, EMDR is not automatically used with every client.
Before beginning trauma processing, we first understand what you are experiencing, what may be triggering your reactions, your current emotional resources and whether EMDR is appropriate for you. Therapy is paced according to your readiness and individual needs.
Our work may involve helping you:
- Understand trauma responses and emotional triggers- Process distressing memories and experiences- Reduce the emotional intensity attached to past events- Understand how earlier experiences may be affecting present relationships- Develop greater emotional regulation and a sense of safety- Change patterns that may once have helped you cope but are no longer serving you
The aim is not to erase what happened. It is to help the past become less powerful in determining how you feel and respond in the present. [ENQUIRE ABOUT TRAUMA & EMDR THERAPY]
You may find yourself reacting strongly to situations that remind you of something from the past. You may feel constantly on guard, experience intrusive memories, avoid certain situations or conversations, struggle to trust others, or notice that past experiences continue to affect your relationships and how you see yourself.
Sometimes you may even understand logically that you are safe now, yet your emotional or physical reactions seem to tell you otherwise.
Trauma does not always come from one dramatic event. It can also develop through repeated experiences of emotional hurt, rejection, betrayal, loss, unsafe relationships, childhood experiences or situations in which you felt powerless or unable to protect yourself.
I provide trauma-informed counselling and psychotherapy for trauma-related difficulties, including symptoms associated with post-traumatic stress, and may integrate Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) where appropriate.
EMDR is a structured psychotherapy approach commonly used in trauma treatment. Rather than requiring you to repeatedly describe every detail of a distressing experience, EMDR works with how difficult memories and experiences continue to be held and activated in the present.
However, EMDR is not automatically used with every client.
Before beginning trauma processing, we first understand what you are experiencing, what may be triggering your reactions, your current emotional resources and whether EMDR is appropriate for you. Therapy is paced according to your readiness and individual needs.
Our work may involve helping you:
- Understand trauma responses and emotional triggers- Process distressing memories and experiences- Reduce the emotional intensity attached to past events- Understand how earlier experiences may be affecting present relationships- Develop greater emotional regulation and a sense of safety- Change patterns that may once have helped you cope but are no longer serving you
The aim is not to erase what happened. It is to help the past become less powerful in determining how you feel and respond in the present. [ENQUIRE ABOUT TRAUMA & EMDR THERAPY]
Couples Counselling & Relationship Therapy
Most couples do not enter counselling because of one argument.
Often, the same conflict has happened many times in different forms.
One partner may pursue while the other withdraws. Conversations may quickly become defensive or critical. You may still care deeply about one another but feel increasingly unable to reach each other emotionally.
Couples counselling may be helpful if you are experiencing:- Recurring arguments and unresolved conflict- Communication breakdown- Emotional disconnection- Attachment insecurity- Betrayal or loss of trust- Intimacy difficulties- Difficulties expressing emotional needs- Major life transitions affecting the relationship- Uncertainty about whether or how the relationship can move forward
In my work with couples, I draw particularly from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment-based perspectives.
Rather than simply focusing on who said what during the latest argument, we look at the relationship pattern underneath it — what each partner may be feeling, protecting, fearing or needing but finding difficult to communicate.
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right or wrong.
It is about helping both partners understand what is happening between them, interrupt patterns that repeatedly lead to disconnection, and develop healthier and more emotionally responsive ways of relating.
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Often, the same conflict has happened many times in different forms.
One partner may pursue while the other withdraws. Conversations may quickly become defensive or critical. You may still care deeply about one another but feel increasingly unable to reach each other emotionally.
Couples counselling may be helpful if you are experiencing:- Recurring arguments and unresolved conflict- Communication breakdown- Emotional disconnection- Attachment insecurity- Betrayal or loss of trust- Intimacy difficulties- Difficulties expressing emotional needs- Major life transitions affecting the relationship- Uncertainty about whether or how the relationship can move forward
In my work with couples, I draw particularly from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment-based perspectives.
Rather than simply focusing on who said what during the latest argument, we look at the relationship pattern underneath it — what each partner may be feeling, protecting, fearing or needing but finding difficult to communicate.
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right or wrong.
It is about helping both partners understand what is happening between them, interrupt patterns that repeatedly lead to disconnection, and develop healthier and more emotionally responsive ways of relating.
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Family Counselling
Family relationships can become strained during periods of stress, transition, conflict or loss.
Bereavement, separation or divorce, financial pressures, parenting difficulties, changes in family roles and other major life events can affect the way family members communicate and respond to one another.
Over time, disagreements may become repetitive and each person may feel that they are not being understood or heard.
Family counselling provides a facilitated space for family members to slow these interactions down and better understand what is happening within their relationships.
Counselling may help families to:- Improve communication- Understand different perspectives within the family- Identify recurring patterns that contribute to conflict- Navigate major transitions or stressful circumstances- Address unresolved emotional difficulties- Rebuild trust and emotional connection- Develop healthier ways of responding to one another
The purpose is not to identify one person as the problem.
Instead, we look at the relationships and interaction patterns within the family and work towards creating greater understanding, healthier communication and more constructive ways of navigating difficulties together.
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Bereavement, separation or divorce, financial pressures, parenting difficulties, changes in family roles and other major life events can affect the way family members communicate and respond to one another.
Over time, disagreements may become repetitive and each person may feel that they are not being understood or heard.
Family counselling provides a facilitated space for family members to slow these interactions down and better understand what is happening within their relationships.
Counselling may help families to:- Improve communication- Understand different perspectives within the family- Identify recurring patterns that contribute to conflict- Navigate major transitions or stressful circumstances- Address unresolved emotional difficulties- Rebuild trust and emotional connection- Develop healthier ways of responding to one another
The purpose is not to identify one person as the problem.
Instead, we look at the relationships and interaction patterns within the family and work towards creating greater understanding, healthier communication and more constructive ways of navigating difficulties together.
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Grief, Loss & Bereavement Counselling
Grief is a deeply individual response to loss.Although bereavement following a death is one of the most recognised forms of grief, people can also grieve relationships, health, identity, important roles, anticipated futures and other significant changes in life.There is no single correct way to grieve and no fixed timeline that determines when someone should have “moved on.”As a Certified Thanatologist and Certified Grief Therapist, I work with clients experiencing different forms of grief and loss, including:
Bereavement & GriefFollowing the death of someone significant, you may experience sadness, anger, guilt, numbness, longing, confusion or many different emotions at different times.Counselling provides a space to talk about both the person who died and the impact their absence has had on your life.
Traumatic GriefWhen a death is sudden, unexpected or traumatic, grief may become intertwined with the distress surrounding how the person died.Therapy may therefore involve attending to both the experience of the loss and the traumatic aspects associated with it.
Prolonged or Complicated GriefSometimes grief remains intensely disruptive for a prolonged period and it can become difficult to reconnect with everyday life, relationships or a sense of meaning.Therapy can provide space to understand what may be keeping the grief particularly painful while supporting adaptation to life following the loss.
Anticipatory GriefGrief can also begin before a death or loss occurs.Individuals and families facing serious or life-limiting illness may experience fear, sadness, uncertainty, guilt and a gradual sense of loss while simultaneously coping with the demands of the present.
Bereavement & GriefFollowing the death of someone significant, you may experience sadness, anger, guilt, numbness, longing, confusion or many different emotions at different times.Counselling provides a space to talk about both the person who died and the impact their absence has had on your life.
Traumatic GriefWhen a death is sudden, unexpected or traumatic, grief may become intertwined with the distress surrounding how the person died.Therapy may therefore involve attending to both the experience of the loss and the traumatic aspects associated with it.
Prolonged or Complicated GriefSometimes grief remains intensely disruptive for a prolonged period and it can become difficult to reconnect with everyday life, relationships or a sense of meaning.Therapy can provide space to understand what may be keeping the grief particularly painful while supporting adaptation to life following the loss.
Anticipatory GriefGrief can also begin before a death or loss occurs.Individuals and families facing serious or life-limiting illness may experience fear, sadness, uncertainty, guilt and a gradual sense of loss while simultaneously coping with the demands of the present.
How Grief Therapy May Support You
Our work may involve:- Making space for emotions that may feel difficult to express elsewhere- Understanding the particular meaning of the loss to you- Exploring guilt, regret, anger or unresolved experiences- Processing distressing or traumatic aspects of the loss- Adjusting to changes in roles, relationships and identity- Finding ways to maintain a meaningful connection with what or whom you have lost- Gradually reconstructing meaning and a sense of direction in life
Grief therapy is not about forgetting the person or experience, forcing closure, or returning you to the person you were before the loss.Sometimes the work is about learning how to live with what has changed while gradually finding a way to engage with life again.
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What Grief Counselling Can Help With
Making Sense of Difficult EmotionsGrief can involve sadness, anger, guilt, regret, numbness, relief, longing and many other emotions — sometimes at the same time.Counselling provides a space to explore these feelings without having to minimise them or worry about how they may affect the people around you.
Guilt, Regret & Unfinished ExperiencesAfter a loss, people often revisit what they said, what they did not say, decisions that were made or moments they wish had happened differently.Therapy can help you explore guilt and regret with greater context and compassion, including experiences that may feel unfinished or unresolved.
Identity & Life After LossSignificant loss can change the roles we occupy and how we understand ourselves.You may find yourself asking:Who am I now that this person or part of my life is gone?Grief counselling can support you in adjusting to these changes while gradually rebuilding a sense of identity and direction.
Meaning ReconstructionSome losses fundamentally change the assumptions we previously held about life, relationships, fairness, safety and the future.Meaning reconstruction does not mean trying to find something positive in a painful experience.Instead, it involves gradually making sense of what the loss means in the context of your life, maintaining a meaningful connection with what or whom you have lost, and finding ways to continue living while carrying that connection with you.
Guilt, Regret & Unfinished ExperiencesAfter a loss, people often revisit what they said, what they did not say, decisions that were made or moments they wish had happened differently.Therapy can help you explore guilt and regret with greater context and compassion, including experiences that may feel unfinished or unresolved.
Identity & Life After LossSignificant loss can change the roles we occupy and how we understand ourselves.You may find yourself asking:Who am I now that this person or part of my life is gone?Grief counselling can support you in adjusting to these changes while gradually rebuilding a sense of identity and direction.
Meaning ReconstructionSome losses fundamentally change the assumptions we previously held about life, relationships, fairness, safety and the future.Meaning reconstruction does not mean trying to find something positive in a painful experience.Instead, it involves gradually making sense of what the loss means in the context of your life, maintaining a meaningful connection with what or whom you have lost, and finding ways to continue living while carrying that connection with you.
Not Sure What Type of Counselling You Need?
You do not need to label what you are experiencing or decide which type of counselling you need before contacting me.
Trauma, grief, relationships and major life changes often overlap.
We can begin by understanding what you are experiencing and discuss what form of support may be appropriate for you.
Counselling and psychotherapy are available in English and Mandarin, with in-person sessions in Singapore and online counselling for clients in Singapore and overseas.
We can begin by understanding what you are experiencing and discuss what form of support may be appropriate for you.
Counselling and psychotherapy are available in English and Mandarin, with in-person sessions in Singapore and online counselling for clients in Singapore and overseas.
